I know “what is” is not what you think you want. But, question. “What if “what is” could be perfect if you made it that way?”
Perfection requires work, my friend. Think of a thing that you accomplished that you causes you to marvel? Your accomplishment was perfect because it was difficult but you did it!
It’s the same in relationships. Of course, the relationship can only be perfect if the two of you are perfect for each other. That’s the first requirement. Okay, let me say–if there is any kind of abuse, any kind, then your relationship is disqualified as perfect. That’s for the record, y’all.