“We tried, but we just couldn’t make it”

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I believe these are the words from a popular song back in the 70’s. I know plenty of couples that could have written that song. Hell, I was a part of a couple that could have written that song. But you know what I discovered as we “tried to make it.” I learned that while we were a couple, we were still individuals. And our individualities–personal journeys– got in our couple way. Yep, at the end of the day “the two”, separately, has to do the individual work to make the “two” together work. So, if you are in a relationship and “it ain’t working” then you might want to take a look at the man/woman in the mirror and ask what might “I do” to make the trying work. Remember those words? “I do.” Yeah, but now it means more than it then that beautiful day in June. Today it means “what am I going to do to keep this relationship thriving?” “It means what personal faults am I holding on to that I need to let go of for the sake of my union?” It means “What am I willing to do to improve myself so that my mate can stand living with me until death”‘ But, I guess this means that you gotta know what is important to you as a couple. These were ours. If you are interested in keeping you family together then you need to figure out what it is that’s keeping you apart. Then you’ve got to have a real conversation about what you both want, and if you both even value your family or each other enough to keep at it. Gotta change those “I do’s” because now that you’re in it, “I do” has a whole new meaning.
Let me know how it works out.

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